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A Different Ideal

Like most homeschooling mothers, I worry.  I spend too much of my time worrying that my children aren’t learning the right things at the right times.  I worry that I might miss something.  And I spend a lot of time comparing.  I compare the hours we spend, the curriculum we use, the progress we make, the topics we cover.  Sometimes I’m overwhelmed with the worry. 

But today, as my children spent this whole glorious day doing their best to cover every inch of their sweet little selves in mud before the sun set, as we managed to actually enjoy this lovely spring day and somehow forgot to ‘do school’ I realized that I had been comparing my children, my home, our schooling and learning, to the wrong ideal.

There are reasons I hold dear to my heart that my children are not in public school, convictions that keep me going through our hardest, darkest days.  Yet somehow, I keep comparing my progress to the public school.  But today, I finally remembered that I don’t want my children to be like the kids in public school.  I don’t want them learning facts to please a teacher, or to do well on a test.

So what do I hope my children will gain in their lives by staying home with my husband and I?  I hope that they will develop an understanding and awe for the world around us and it’s amazing history.  I hope they will be avid readers who value books and knowledge.  I hope they feel secure, loved and supported in their endeavors, whatever they may be.  I want them to be curious, to have a thirst to know more.  I want them to know that they will never know everything, that the list of topics in a text book doesn’t represent the whole of human knowledge.  When they go off into this complex and sometimes scary world, I want them to be confident but humble.  This is what I hope. 

Do you struggle with comparisons?  Do you find you have to defend your choices against the comparisons of others?

About the Author Sandra Modersohn

Sandra Modersohn is a devoted wife, mother, and homeschooler. She loves great graphic design and has a passion for creating beautiful and useful printable materials for children. Little Learning Lovies where she shares her creations with the world. She can be found on Facebook and Twitter, Pinterest and, of course, at the Little Learning Lovies Blog and Store.

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Jennie C. says 7 years ago

Sweet post, Sandie! It’s hard to get past the urge to compare. Being near the end with some children, though, I can see now what matters and what doesn’t, which certainly makes it easier! But our children, like us, can’t know everything, and don’t even need to know the exact same things as everybody else. I think people have so much more to talk about when everybody brings something different to the table. (Hm. I wonder if that’s why public school teens are so hard to talk to; they know that you already know everything they know, and so there is nothing new to share!)

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